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5 statements to avoid when sending condolences

It is often difficult to believe that such individuals are gone, especially when they hold a special place in our hearts.

Sending condolences to a bereaved person is a delicate task that should be handled with care. There are certain words and expressions you are permitted to use, while there are some that you shouldn’t use for the sake of the person grieving.

Knowing these words will help you know better how to relate to the person grieving whenever you intend to visit or extend your condolences.

In order not to hurt a person who is grieving while sending your condolences, below are words/statements you should avoid.

1. I know how you are feeling  

If the truth be told, you don’t know how they are feeling, as you are not them. You don’t share the same relationship or bond they had with the deceased.

I know you are being empathetic, but saying this doesn’t really help the bereaved in any way.

Everyone experiences loss and grief differently, and you should encourage the bereaved to have their own unique experience of the loss.

A better way to express your empathy might be, “If you want to talk about how you are feeling, know that I am here for you.”

2. At least the death was quick so there wasn’t pain  

There are times when some individuals spend a lot and go through a lot of stress while trying to save a loved one, and eventually the person dies.

This is why some people believe it is acceptable to say that a person’s death that occurred without any stress for the family is a great way to comfort the bereaved.

The truth is that death, in whatever form it takes, is extremely difficult.

While you may want to help the person look on the positive side, you might be making a mistake, as the bereaved can take this statement wrongly because of the pain they are experiencing at the moment.



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