A Nigerian military wife, known on TikTok as Everything Woman, has decried what she describes as the growing indifference to the deaths of soldiers, following the reported killing of Brigadier Uba in Maiduguri.
In an emotional video posted on Thursday, she said she had spent hours online expecting to see expressions of outrage or grief, only to find an unsettling calm that, she said, belittled the sacrifice of the fallen officer.
She said, “I’ve been online since morning, waiting to see something that will give me hope. So tell me why, till now, everywhere is just quiet like a chicken died? When I was younger, if a soldier fell, communities and even states closed.”
Recalling earlier times when fallen soldiers were honoured with deep public mourning, she added, “Because 10,000 men would bury that soldier, escort him to his grave. Now, we lose a Brigadier General, and the whole nation is silent as if nothing happened.”
She expressed disappointment with military families, government officials and citizens for their silence, insisting that such indifference harms morale and weakens national unity.
She further stated, “Even military wives are quiet. If you stay quiet, it will affect you. Our government is quiet.”
She questioned how Nigeria had reached a point where high-ranking officers are killed without triggering collective outrage.
The military officer’s wife said, “As a country, how have we let it get to this point where they kill a Brigadier General and nothing happens?”
Lamenting the dangers faced by soldiers, she questioned the value of their service if the system fails to protect or honour them. She said, “What is the point if our men can’t get protection, justice, or vengeance?”
The military wife spoke about the sacrifices made by families of service members, raising children alone, celebrating milestones without their spouses, and carrying the emotional burden of uncertainty.
Addressing President Bola Tinubu, she said, “Mr President, as a military wife, my consolation was that after carrying my children alone, attending every antenatal appointment and birth without him, one day he would serve 35 years and come back.
“Every birthday missed, every anniversary celebrated alone, every night slept alone, every responsibility done alone, was because I believed one day I would have him back.”
However, she now fears that her husband may never return. She said, “So tell me, why does it now seem that he might serve forever, and that shatters my hope? Because he might miss every birthday for nothing. He might just die like a bird.”
Watch the video below:
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