‘My Mother Flogged Me Naked Over Accusation Of Having Affair With Her Boyfriend’ – Kaffy

Sunnex Egbu

5 hours ago

Nigerian professional dancer, Kafayat Oluwatoyin Shafau, popularly known by her stage name as Kaffy, has recounted a traumatic childhood experience in which her mother accused her of having an affair with her boyfriend.

Naijaonpoint reports that Kaffy shared the experience while speaking in a recent episode of The Honest Bunch podcast.

Kaffy revealed that her mother dated different men after she divorced her father, and she and her siblings were close to these men, even calling them “daddies.”

She, however, said that her mother became insecure due to their closeness to her boyfriends and was suspecting them of having an affair with them behind her back.

Kaffy recalled how her mother stripped her naked and flogged her in front of everyone over the suspicion that she (Kaffy) was having an affair with one of her boyfriends.

The dancer explained that her mother walked in on her trying to clean blood from ‘daddy’s’ face after he cut himself while shaving, adding that the incident left her traumatised.

She said, “I was 13 when my mother started suspecting me with her own men. Because of the divorce she had kinds of people. She will have different men she is dating and we will see those men as daddies because we were also missing that father [figure].

“The closer you are to the men, the more she is insecure. And there was a day that I was stripped naked in front of that man in the living room and punished for just trying to help ‘daddy’ clean a blood from his face because he was shaving and cut himself. My mother walked into the room when I was saying, ‘Daddy, see.’ And she misinterpreted what was happening and I was flogged naked in front of everyone.

“That had it own traumatising effect on the mind on its own. But then you are thinking, ‘But that’s my mother, would I do that to my mother? Why would my mother even think of that of me, the daughter?’ Are you seeing that transfer of insecurity from mother to child? It’s done subliminally but it’s going to have its own effect.”