Nollywood actress and filmmaker Mary Remmy Njoku has counselled men on how to care for and love their women through postpartum.
On her Instagram page, she enlightened them that postpartum depression is mourning the death of the girl they once were, and learning to embrace the birth of the woman they’re becoming.
Njoku said motherhood is as real as it gets, and to truly love the mother of their children, a man must stop trying to revive the girl she once was, as she is gone. She added that men should get to know the woman she has become.
“Postpartum depression is mourning the death of the girl you once were, and learning to embrace the birth of the woman you are becoming.
Motherhood is as real as it gets.
So, to truly love the mother of your children, stop trying to revive the girl she once was. She is gone. Instead, get to know the woman she has become.
So, my dear men, look at the bright side: you get to love ‘different’ women, at different stages of your marriage or relationship.
Brothers! Nature has given variety all along. Enjoy!!”.
Early this year, Njoku avowed that a mother shouldn’t be compelled to have a different name from her underaged kids, except she is allowed to change their names too. She noted how one cannot build a name for many years and be asked to change it because someone doesn’t want a divorce.
Last year, Mary advised men on the importance of mothers to their children, as she noted how many men want their children to be brilliant, yet they treat their wives as a lamb. The filmmaker pointed out how a fowl can’t raise a tiger, indirectly telling men that a gentle wife and mother can’t raise kids to be like tigers.
In a memo to BBL lovers, the award-winning filmmaker made a case for natural beauty, stating that what makes a lady or woman stand out is her mind. She admonished women to develop their brains, and invest in their skills.
The filmmaker had frowned at 21-year-old girls who are now getting Botox. She questioned if having a lifeless face is now the new trend, as she questioned what wrinkles girls in their 20s are trying to hide. Mary admonished them to embrace their youth while they still can as she noted how many would do anything to be in their 20s again and cherish their youthful beauty.
In another Instagram post, Mary had sent a message to Nigerian religious women, noting how there was nothing wrong with IVF. She admonished religious women to feel free to include IVF in their testimonies so that God can use them to inspire and bless other families as well.