Dr. Cheyenne Bryant Says She Would Never Date a Man Making $50K or Less — Fans Split on Whether That’s “Standards” or “Elitism”
Relationship expert Dr. Cheyenne Bryant has sparked a heated online debate after revealing that she would never date a man who makes $50,000 a year or less or earns significantly less than she does.
And according to her, it’s not about looking down on anyone.
Dr. Bryant explained that her stance is rooted in power dynamics, not judgment. She says she does not discriminate against men who make less money, but believes the imbalance would ultimately be unfair to the man. In her view, a partner who earns far less could feel inadequate, uncomfortable, or unable to provide within her lifestyle.
In other words, she argues it’s about emotional pressure, not ego.
Still, the internet had… thoughts.
“It’s Not About Money, It’s About Power”
Dr. Bryant says that when there is a major financial gap, especially when the woman earns significantly more, the relationship can become strained. She believes some men may struggle with confidence, masculinity, or feelings of usefulness if they cannot contribute at the same level financially.
Her argument: she is protecting both herself and her potential partner from a situation that could breed resentment, insecurity, or control issues.
To some, that sounds like self-awareness.
To others, it sounds like privilege talking.
Fans Fire Back: “So Only Rich Men Deserve Love?”
Critics online quickly labeled the comment elitist, arguing that love, compatibility, emotional intelligence, and character matter far more than income.
Many pointed out that $50,000 a year is a solid, hardworking salary for millions of people across the country, especially teachers, first responders, social workers, creatives, and essential workers.
Others said her framing reinforces outdated ideas that a man’s worth is tied to his ability to “provide,” while women’s value is measured differently.
One viral comment summed it up:
“So if he treats you well, is loyal, emotionally mature, and supportive… but makes $48K, he’s not good enough?”
Supporters: “Standards Are Not the Same as Snobbery”
On the flip side, many defended Dr. Bryant, saying she is simply being honest about what works for her.
Supporters argue that financial compatibility is real, especially when lifestyles, housing, travel, and long-term goals are involved. They say it’s better to be upfront about expectations than to pretend money does not matter when, in reality, it often does.
Some also pointed out that men frequently state income or appearance standards for women without the same level of backlash.
So… Is She Being Real or Being Elitist?
Here’s the honest take:
Dr. Bryant is right that money can affect power dynamics in relationships. Financial stress, lifestyle mismatches, and insecurity are real issues that can break couples apart.
But critics are also right that tying someone’s dating worth to a salary number can feel classist, especially in an economy where wages do not always reflect intelligence, ambition, or character.
My Answer to Your Question
Do I agree with her?
I agree with the principle: financial compatibility matters, and people are allowed to have standards.
Do I think it can sound elitist?
Yes, when it is framed as a hard cutoff based on income alone rather than values, goals, and partnership.
In short:
She is not wrong for having preferences.
But the way it is stated risks reducing people to a paycheck.
And that is why this conversation has everyone arguing.
So what do you think:
Is Dr. Bryant simply protecting her peace… or is this money-based dating culture going too far?