Self-acclaimed relationship therapist, Blessing Okoro, also known as Blessing CEO, has shared why some men perceive successful women as threats to their marriages.
Naijaonpoint reports that the relationship coach said many women complain that their husbands feel insecure once they begin to succeed.
Speaking during an interview, she said the issue is not that men fear a woman’s success, but rather the change in attitude that often accompanies it.
She said that success can cause women to develop attitudes that society typically associates with men, such as authority and control.
According to her, once a woman starts to provide, she may naturally begin to compete with her husband, even without being aware of it.
The mother of two advised women who earn more than their husbands to remain soft and still act like a wife.
“No man is intimidated by your success. They are only afraid of the masculinity that comes with success. Because when a woman starts to make money on her own, she automatically becomes a man. Once you can provide, you automatically become a man. You will see yourself subconsciously dragging might. Because at the end of the day, what makes a man powerful is the ability to provide. That is what gives him that mantle.
“So I always tell women, no matter how much you have, just remember to be soft. Remember that you are a woman. Because once you start to show your husband that might saying, “Oh, my salary is bigger” he will do everything. Either he starts to cheat and look for a woman that is softer, or he leaves the marriage.”