Nollywood actress Eriata Ese, has reacted to criticism from those who condemn ladies for giving birth out of wedlock.

The former Big Brother Naija housemate asked why people judge others without understanding their personal struggles or reasons for choosing a particular path, Naijaonpoint reports.

The reality TV star explained that while marriage is a beautiful thing, not everyone reaches that stage at the same time, as many are dealing with trauma, emotional healing, or waiting for the right moment to settle down.

Eriata pointed out the contradictions in society’s expectations; how women are pressured to have children once they reach their 30s, yet are still condemned when they do so without marriage.

She said the same people who urge women to “just have kids” are the ones who later criticize them as single mothers.

She also said that when women finally find love, people still mock them by questioning why their partners chose them over younger women.

Eriata expressed frustration that most of these negative remarks come from fellow women.

She wrote on her Snap story: “In as much as marriage is a good thing. Some people don’t think of wondering why a person chose a certain path. You don’t know my past, you don’t know if I have trust or anger issues I’m trying to heal from.

“You don’t know if I’m taking my time to study who I want to end up with, you don’t know if there’s something I’m waiting for to click before I say yes, I want to marry, you don’t know my fears and worries, and you don’t know if I’m mentally ready.

“You don’t know if I’m working on myself to be someone’s peace and trophy. All y’all want to do is get on that keypad and type rubbish because commenting is free, so you step on your brain before typing. Mad people everywhere.

“You’ll hear them shouting, ‘once you are 30+ and no husband, just have your kids.’ When you go ahead to have kids, they’ll say, ‘Where is the father? Oh, no husband? Hmmm, single mother.

“When you choose to wait on the Lord and now, clock 40+, you’ll hear, ‘Oh, just look at you; as beautiful as you are, you don’t even have at least 1 child, even if you didn’t see your husband.

“When God finally brings love/husband, you’ll now hear, ‘The guy didn’t see younger girls; what is he doing with a single mother?’

“And what’s flabbergasting in all of this, the majority of the people saying these things are women”.